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Tips for moving on and letting go:

A breakup can shake your world. Few of us realize that this can be a time for a new and better beginning. Here are some tips on how to move on and let go:

Romantic relationships can bring you tons of joy, happiness, and a deeper emotional connection. It can also bring you its fair share of emotional distress. Whether it’s a divorce or a breakup, ending a relationship is a serious life event that usually has a huge impact on your finances, happiness, and mental state. 

A breakup can shake your world. It can be the worse type of rejection and utterly undermine your confidence. The loss of love is painful, leaving you feeling like a failure. You should accept those aching feelings, then, gradually, let go of them and replace them with hope and positivity. Few of us realize that this can be a time for a new and better beginning. Moving on is not the end; it is a fresh start!

We are happy to share with you some tips we recommend that may aid in the next chapter of your life. Note that this list is not inclusive of usual tips! What works for some people, may not work for you. Everybody is different!

Let yourself grieve:

When you break up with someone you love, the loss is real. He or she was a critical part of your life. You assumed it would last forever. Let yourself feel the pain, anger or any emotions you’re enduring. Denial will only make you feel worse in the long run, and it prevents you from healing.

Do not constantly view their Social Media profiles:

Social media can be the string that keeps you bound to your ex long after it is over. Reading about their latest happenings on Twitter and seeing pictures of their fun weekends on Facebook and Instagram only keeps you bound to them emotionally. All your energy is caught up in the past. If taken to extremes, this can become very toxic. It will prevent you from going after something new and better. Looking for pictures of them having fun can also be extremely depressing as you wonder what might have been. Social media has a magical “unfollow” button that can save you much pain and help you get over the past.

Limit contact :

Following the breakup, it is normal that you may still feel that emotional connection with them. It is tempting to grasp at any excuse for a call or a text. Even if you’re no longer together, any reason will do. “Did I leave my book at your place?” “Have you seen my glasses?” These are simply excuses to see them again, because you may be holding on to hope that things could work out.

The truth is that you know better. It’s over. The  differences that led to the breakup still exist. As much as we would like to hold on to this person, that won’t change these differences. If anything, it might help the pain linger. Buy a new book and new glasses, if necessary. The price you will pay will be far less expensive.

It’s different if you have kids with your ex. Communication will then be necessary at times, depending on your children’s ages. But that’s ok. Stay strong, and limit communication to topics or issues related to the kids…and nothing more.

Spend more time with friends:

Many of us neglect our friendships when we are in a serious relationship. Use this time to reconnect with friends who always get you in a happy mood. Meet for dinner. Get tickets for a movie. Join a gym together. The more you spend time with your friends, the less time is left over for wallowing about the past.

Develop new interests:

There is probably a list of things that you haven’t done because your ex wasn’t interested. Now is the time to grow as a person. Your ex refused to try Thai food? Well, now is your chance. Have you always wanted to volunteer at something interesting, but your ex complained it would take up too much of your time? Now, you have the time to pursue your interests. It the perfect time to grow to the next level. It’s a very freeing feeling to be able to do anything you want without having to consider someone else, so revel in it.

Conclusion

After a breakup, you won’t move on overnight. Nor should you. It’s a process. Start by going through all the necessary grieving steps. Then, see the possibilities that are now ahead. One part of your life may be over, but there is an unlimited future waiting for you.

The legal process can get difficult, which is why we always recommend that you seek assistance of counsel; or at least have a consultation. Schedule a consultation with one of our attorneys today to review the issues of your case, the legal options you may have, and certain rights that pertain to your unique situation.

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