Handling being on your own:
Even an amicable divorce can be stressful. With or without divorce lawyers, your life and dreams change so drastically, they can shatter you during a divorce. Many people seek refuge in their work during these difficult times. However, what if the stress impacts your job negatively?
Since your marriage, you’ve been a couple – a unit. Now, you are preparing meals for one and eating alone. Sleeping alone. And going out alone. Returning to being single can be a harsh adjustment.
It’s smart to use this time to your advantage. Instead of shrinking your world from being a double to becoming a single, consider how this time can be used. You can learn a new hobby, read books you never had time for previously, or join a gym. Instead of viewing the divorce as a loss, change your mindset to seeing what you have gained. There are new opportunities ahead for you.
Since you will now be able to focus more on your career, it is a good time to ask where you are going. Should you work for a promotion? Or is this a good time to spend more time with your children? Only you can make that decision, but you now have the time to consider all your options.
While you are going through a divorce, divorce lawyers will help you on the legal aspect while the other aspect of your life is on hold. Now is an excellent time to consider the future. Have you always wanted to write a book? Own your own business? Being married might have made pursuing these plans difficult, but you are now free to at least consider the future as holding more opportunities. More doors may have opened for you.
Fortunately, you can lessen the impact of divorce on your career. Here are our suggestions we believe you should keep in mind:
Be Prepared for Change
Taking new risks can be daunting. Perhaps you have always dreamed of having your own business, but your marriage was a buffer to keep you safe from taking that risk. You had an excuse not to try. Now, the future is wide open. How will you handle it?
Your life and career need not be defined by your divorce. If handled properly, they may benefit from it.
Of course, you don’t need to make any major changes if you don’t want to. You can use this new, free time to evaluate your current job and develop a plan to make it more meaningful. You can take on more responsibilities and simply improve a few skills. If not now, when?
Taking Stock in Your Life
Going through a divorce and talking to divorce lawyers provide you with the valuable opportunity to examine your life, especially your work life. Do you blame others for your mistakes? Have you been afraid to provide input to the team? Were you intimidated by criticism instead of learning from it? Now is the optimal time to take stock and examine any patterns of behavior that might have been holding you back at work.
Have those same patterns been holding you back from trying something new? Now might be the best time to take some new risks and become a new, better version of yourself, especially career-wise. As a single person or a single mother, your financial situation has changed. If getting a better job will help alleviate future financial strains, then it is something you should consider.
A divorce will change your career priorities. Do you need a job that pays more? Should you consider a job that allows for more free time to spend with your children? You may need to choose between a less challenging job and raising the children. Which means you will be bringing in less money.
Trying to find a balance while undergoing a divorce can be as stressful as the divorce itself. The best solution is to take it one step at a time. Remain open to all possibilities, whether it’s a new job, remaining at your current job, changing your work hours, or putting your children before your career altogether. An honest discussion with your employer can help place things in perspective.
Don’t wait until your divorce is finalized to prepare yourself for your new situation. Take your free time and consider all the steps ahead of you. And never be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
The legal process can get difficult, which is why we always recommend that you seek the assistance of counsel; or at least have a consultation. Schedule a consultation with one of our attorneys today to review the issues of your case, the legal options you may have, and certain rights that pertain to your unique situation.
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